You'd think by now I'd know "there are NO perfect men," but, my friend, I'm still falling for those same old lines too. The only difference between BACK THEN and NOW is, I've learned the 10 PERFECT ways to get over the Perfect Man. So, baby boomers, if you're drooling in your beer and wishing you had the PERFECT cure, keep reading.
1. Stop thinking you'll NEVER get over him. I know that's how you feel right now, today, this minute, but I promise you, there's another man around the corner and he's better looking, better at meeting your needs, and he's probably a better kisser too. You may struggle for a bit, but STOP thinking you'll never get over him, and risk it... You WILL.
2. Move on. Sounds simple, doesn't it. I know, he hurt you and your little heart is breaking, but you can choose to stay there sobbing into your beer or you can move on. Make the choice and get over him. He wasn't that great! His feet stunk, he farted, burped and made rude noises you never wanted to hear, and he wasn't smart enough to keep you. That's it! Move on.
3. Find a new interest. No, not a new lover. That comes later... for right now, just a new interest. Try watching the smoky haze in the early dawn hours and tell me you don't feel better about the rest of the day. Get up early and walk. Take up "Tea". Find a new recipe for Schnoodle and make it every day - take your neighbors the results. Write a book about why you're not in love with him anymore.
4. Shop until you drop. No, don't SPEND, I said SHOP! It's fun. Dress up in your favorite outfit and grab your BIGGEST handbag. Fill the bag with essentials, a bottle of water and a snack in a baggie. Now, shop. Just meander through every store on the mall and look for things you'd like to buy - but don't. When you get home, write down the really important things you saw that you'd like to have. Throw the list away. If you still remember the most important thing on the list next week, and you can afford it, go buy it.
5. Read Cinderella. Now, there's a perfect man - he was probably drawn by a woman. Understand that fairy-tale romance is just that and there's probably NO other explanation for it, it's a fairy-tale, doesn't happen in real life.
6. Get out of the house. This is important. Probably more important than any other thing you'll do. Just get out. Go some place, do something and make a difference for yourself. It doesn't have to be big, but do something different. Go to a different restaurant, a different park, or a different store. But change your habits. Make a GOOD new habit.
7. Find a new and better job. Probably not every time you dump someone or get dumped, but if it's really that big a deal move UP in your world and find a better position in life. I've even been known to move to a better apartment.
8. Read a book. Nope, not a mushy lovers romance, read something with meat in it. Go for substance, John Gresham, Vince Flynn, Charlie Wilson, or Sydney Sheldon and put some mystery in your life. Heck, go for broke and read Dean Koontz.
9. Take a class. Learning something new will make you a better person, give you a new outlook and refresh your optimism. This is always a good thing to do. Take a class, meet new people and risk getting to know the opportunities available for you in the world. There are plenty out there.
10. Get connected to an important cause. My favorite all time new cause was the pregnancy league. A group of people dedicated to making new parenting a good choice for young moms. When you start out, you feel a bit misdirected, because everyone is giving young moms bad advice, but then you realize that you may be the reason just one mom keeps her baby and gives that baby a chance at a good life.
Encouraging others always makes you feel better.
Eventually, you'll figure out there are no perfect men and you'll be okay with that, but for now... Just determine to get over THIS one.
Taking the leap to dating again sometimes catches you off guard, but there's always that wonderful feeling of meeting the right person and knowing how much you enjoy the dance of human relationships. Saying hello gives you an opportunity to beat the odds and find the right guy who is PERFECT for you.
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© 2009 - Jan Verhoeff
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