By Alfred M Lee and Janis Walters
We have been asked the following question which seems to be a common concern of women. "I have been attending some functions in our community, and there is a fella I would like to meet and although we make eye contact from time to time, he never makes a move to talk to me. Is it okay for me to take the initiative in making contact? I know in our society, women have been taught that being assertive and going after what they want is generally a good thing, but is it a good thing when it comes to one's love life? "
Our thoughts:
Jan: Social events are meant for people to meet each other. There is no reason why you shouldn't talk with EVERYONE there. I would make it a point to go up to each group, introduce myself, and talk for a while as I work my way towards the guy I'm interested in meeting. Then I would go to the next group and talk for a bit. Eventually you will get to the man your interested in. It is a lot easier this way than making a beeline towards him. If he is in a group, just go up and join in, after all it is a community social event and that is what you have been doing since entering the room. Also, if you end up in a group discussion with him, just turn and say to him, "What do you think about that?" or "How about those Dodgers? (Substituting your local team of course)" You will know if he is interested in you by how he responds. It is a mindset. Think of him as a brother or friend, what would you say to them and how would you act? Oh, one other thing, wear a conversation piece, such as a necklace, pin, earrings or something he can talk about. Be brave, you have nothing to loose but loneliness.
Al: Generally, women wait for the man to make first contact, but I believe that is "old school" thinking, not in keeping with the current "equality" of the sexes. Personally I prefer a woman who approaches and begins the conversation. It let's me know she is self-assured, independent and interested, and takes some of the pressure off men like me, that tend to be a little on the shy side. The woman, however, must be careful to temper the assertiveness to avoid appearing desperate, domineering or abrasive. So I would say, use some common sense, start the conversation, and see what develops! If all this common sense advice fails, try CLEAVAGE, SPIKES AND A SHORT SKIRT! (Kidding!) http://seniorandsingle-nowwhat.com
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